Self-care is not some buzz-word created to self-indulge and neglect our responsibilities. It is actually very crucial to living an intentional healthy mental and spiritual life. Whether you’re a side hustler or full time entrepreneur, you have a unique set of challenges. You are overwhelmed, tired and frustrated. Which is why carving out time for self-care, or more importantly, soul-care, shall be crucial to creating a sustainable lifestyle long-term. Don't spend so much time in your business that you neglect the most important part of your business: YOURSELF! Here are five ways to master self-care.
Make Time For God
You can’t effectively pour yourself out in service of others if your well is dry. The only way to stay refreshed and replenished is to draw from God’s well, that never runs dry. You do this with intentional, uninterrupted, consistent time with God. This is your war room room. This is your time of arming yourself. This is your time for bathing in God’s love. This is your time for receiving from God. This is your time to loving ON God. Don't ever become so busy that you neglect time alone with God through prayer, and Bible reading. You get to determine what that looks like, however just make sure it is disciplined, un-rushed and meaningful. Stay tuned for devotionals for the "busy entrepreneur".
Know Your Triggers
We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. -2 Corinthians 10:5
I am a fan of getting to the source. My long term strategy is to treat the ailment on its deepest level rather than placing band-aids on gapping wounds. With that being said, self-care is the remedy to what may be a deeper issue: your triggers. Are you stressed? Why are you stressed? Are you anxious? Why are you anxious? What fears are keeping your thought life captive? What patterns of thoughts are you believing that are contrary to what God says? Get to the bottom of what may be robbing you of your peace, joy and mental health. Once that part is done, you can create an action plan to combat all those barriers.
Start Where You Are At
It may sound strange, but some of us are not used to relaxing. If this is true for you, give yourself grace and slowly integrate self care practices into your lifestyle. This does not have to be an entire day and does not requires hundred of dollars on luxurious experience. It could be glimpses of a day and economical indulges. For example try:
Reading a non-business book
DIY mani/pedi date
Having a candle-lit bath
Watching a comedy
Talking on the phone with your bestie
Now that you have prioritized your spiritual retreat time, it is time to strategize your physical wellness plan. The second best way to care for yourself is through exercise, great sleep and healthy eating. Your hours are long and you need the fuel that this trifecta will bring you. I know you're busy, however there are plenty of resources out there that accommodate the busy boss. In regards to healthy eating, whether you choose to cook or budget your meals outside of your home, just make sure they are nutritional and feed your body what it needs. In regards to physical activity, there are EFFECTIVE routines that cost you a smooth 15-30 minutes. (If you don't have 30 minutes to commit to your health, we have a deeper issue.) Lastly in regards to sleep: close the laptop and put away the phone. Business will go on JUST FINE without you in it all day! Put your trust BACK IN GOD’S HAND to lead and watch over your business so that you can rest REST! I can’t say how many hours are necessary for your body, just make sure that it is a quality amount. Because listen whoever said “I will sleep when I’m dead”, is a FULL ON fool. Get your sleep sis.
Ask For Help
This is hard for me. I tend to take on the entire world, become overwhelmed because duh, I can't do it all. I then either give up or procrastinate which then exasperates my stress levels. Just a vicious cycle of heightened cortisol levels. If you've been trying to do it all, it might be time for help. I'm not suggesting hiring an entire workforce. That might just be hiring an intern part-time, or a virtual assistant. Support may also come in the form of a business bestie or a peer group. It also maybe time to invest in a business coach whose sole purpose it to help you gain clarity and strategy for how to scale your business. I know how hard it is to release control and have someone working alongside you, but you have to realize you need the help. Ask God for the direction needed to make a wise decision with bringing on additional help. Ask for someone with integrity, is coachable, committed and more than qualified to do the job.
Lastly do not feel bad for taking time out for yourself. You can’t fully show up for folks when your tank is on EMPTY. Even The Lord retreated when necessary. You've heard it before: The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. Be sure to prioritize your self-care.
Let me know how do you take time out for yourself?